attachment style
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Understanding Your Attachment Style

Our earliest relationships form the foundation for life. They shape the way we love, our ability to manage emotion and our ability to connect in healthy relationships throughout life. From the moment a baby enters the world, they are seeking security, safety sustenance and love. As their eyes search for connection with their mother and…

reduce post divorce conflict
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EMDR To Reduce Post-Divorce Conflict

Marital conflict, separation, dissolution and court proceedings can be stressful and even traumatic.  The arguments, verbal attacks, grief and feelings of loss or betrayal can be devastating. The result of that trauma, if not resolved, is often anxiety, overt stress, and resistance to interactions with one’s former spouse that trigger extreme anxiety and defensiveness.  When…

stop judging others
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Tips to Help You Stop Judging Others (and Yourself)

Ironically, when we judge others, we are really judging ourselves. Our harsh comments or thoughts are more often a reflection of our own issues than someone else’s. But, learning how to change automatic negative thoughts that we have towards others, and ourselves, is often easier said than done. There are a few things you can…

women's issues
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Taking Time for Yourself

  Over the years, I have seen many people come in for therapy to work on feeling happier.  They are sad, struggling in relationships, recovering from divorce or struggling with parenting.  Yet, in their struggles they have forgotten about themselves.  Their focus has been outward on relationships and pressures, but stopping, turning attention inward, and…

women's issues
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Forgiveness

  Have you ever been in an argument with someone and brought up an offense from ten years prior?  Maybe it is an offense you bring up regularly during arguments to remind them of the hurt they caused you.  If so, you are not alone.  Often one of the biggest hurdles in relationships is the…

Relationship Therapist - Frustrated Male With Hand Over Eyes
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Relationship Stress During the Holidays

‘Tis the Season: Shopping, decorating, holiday gatherings, baking, wrapping, and still juggling the day to day responsibilities of work and home. It’s no wonder the holidays can create such stress in our lives and friction in relationships.  Unfortunately the enjoyment of the season can be lost when the tension invades your love life.  However, a…

Thankful List - Notes
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Thankful List

This time of year is the perfect time to begin a list that encourages you to reflect on the people, places, things and experiences in your life for which you are thankful.  The following exercise may seem easy at first, but as time goes on, you will find that it challenges you to look for…

Partnership Therapy - Nurturing a Partnership - Two Parrots with beaks touching
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Nurturing a Partnership

Finding balance between maintaining one’s individuality and independence and yet fostering connected, loving relationships can be a difficult task for many of us.  We are raised in a society that encourages independence, yet too much independence in a relationship can lead to trouble.  In an age of internet access, corporate travel, and two career households,…

Therapy - Taking Time Out - A Whistle
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Taking Time Outs

Have you ever had an argument with someone in which you became so angry that you said things you regretted, “lost your cool,” or “dragged in everything but the kitchen sink”? Or maybe you have been on the receiving end of an argument like that.  Either way, it is the type of argument that leaves…