How often do you find yourself stuck between two options (or more) wavering for days, weeks, or months to determine the ideal choice? If so, you are not alone as research has shown that there are many people in today’s society struggling with this on a daily basis. It is important to note that it is healthy to try and make good choices based on careful consideration. However, this becomes a problem when you find yourself procrastinating on making decisions, end up feeling stuck and not moving forward.
Give some consideration to what the underlying problem may be. Sometimes, the lack of ability to make a choice can be the result of fear for what will come of a less than ideal choice. Furthermore, it could reflect a lack of confidence in one’s ability to navigate the results of a less than desirable outcome. What happens if things don’t work out as planned? What if I discover this was not a good choice? What if I suffer from this choice? These are just a few of the many questions that keep people up at night as they toil over decisions. But, consider a positive “What if…?” Could it be possible that if it is the wrong decision, you will discover a way to get through it? Will you learn from the experience? Will it be an adventure as you navigate through the challenges created? Too often we underestimate our strength and ability for resilience. Of course one should consider the ramifications of decisions in advance, but when there is no clear answer, and no crystal ball in sight, make a decision and remind yourself that you are strong and resilient. You can and will get through this, and quite possibly learn and grow along the way. As research done by the Columbia Business School professor Sheena Iyengar indicated in her paper, Eternal Quest for the Best, “Enjoying the most satisfaction from one’s choice might require being willing to give up the eternal quest for the best”